by Hilary Grossman
Published July 23rd 2014
Published by Booktrope
For every girl who wondered if she should love him or dump him.....
For every girl who listened to her heart instead of her friends advice....
For every girl who wondered if she was wasting her time dating that guy....
She had gotten used to dating the commitment-phobic Marc, thirteen years her senior. They had a great relationship--why rush into things? She saw no need to pressure him for marriage, believing that when the time was right, he would propose. But after they had been together for four years, their friends decided to take matters into their own hands, pushing Marc to propose and making Hilary realize how much she really did want to marry the man that she loved. Unfortunately, Marc still wasn't ready--and their friends' meddling in the form of a faux engagement party led to a disastrous New Year's Eve that brought their relationship to an inevitable turning point.
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~this review may contain minor spoilers~
I had so much I wanted to say but I was frightened to say any of it. In a lot of ways, I walked on eggshells around Marc. I was always so worried about scaring him off.
Hilary has been with her boyfriend Marc for four years now and has become used to his commitment-phobic ways. She loves him and doesn't want to rush him into anything before he's ready for fear of scaring him off, so she's happy to let him set the pace of their relationship. This has never really been a problem, for the most part, and she doesn't let it bother her or affect their relationship; so their friends decide to takes matters into their own hands. But after witnessing firsthand his reaction to their 'fake engagement' one disastrous New Years Eve; courtesy of said friends -his complete and total shutdown and obvious fear- Hilary begins to wonder if she will ever be anything more than just his girlfriend, and more importantly; can she live with that. One thing is for certain, that night sets the stage for a major turning point in their relationship. The question on everyone's lips now is weather or not they will survive it.
I had always feared disappointment and rejection. If you don't ask, you can't be told no. At my core, even though I may have pretended otherwise, I was still an insecure girl. And if I was honest with myself, I think that was the reason why I had been willing to accept my relationship with Marc completely on his terms.
I think everyone will react quite differently to this book for many different reasons. On the one hand; there will be many women yelling at Hilary to just leave him already, what are you waiting for, why stick out a dead-end relationship? Then there will be the women like me; the ones who have their very own commitment-phobe at home. My husband and I were together seven years before he proposed, so a lot of what Hilary went through, and everything she was feeling, I had a direct understanding of. It all really hit close to home for me and brought all of those old feelings of doubt, uncertainty, and vulnerability right to the surface. It's one of those things that you just can't understand unless you've gone through it, but Hilary Grossman does a fantastic job of laying it all out there and forcing you to really feel the hurricane of emotions it evokes. It was truly an amazing story and I'm having a hard time wrapping my head around the fact that this is her debut novel. All I can hope is that it will not be her last. I have no problems recommending this book to anyone who realizes that not all romances are the perfect fairy-tale and sometimes the wait is truly worth it.
You have to follow your heart. If you don't want to stick it out, no one will blame you for giving up. And if you love him, and are able to accept the relationship for what it is and what it may become, or what it may remain, that is wonderful too. But whatever you do decide to do, make sure that you consider your feelings.
Hilary Grossman dated a guy so commitment-phobic that she was able to write a book about their relationship. She is currently the CFO of a beverage alcohol importer and lives on Long Island.
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